I'm re-posting the two latest eLetters I've been sending out to all of you who are subscribed again. Both as a reminder, and for you who are not subscribed and have missed out on the last mini-series where I went through how to get rid of the things that holds you back, and guidance to set new targets and grow new dreams.
The statistics says that a good 86% of people make New Year resolutions, and only 14 days later, 30% of them have already scaled back on the promises. After a few months, only 12% are still striving toward the goals they set in January. This is why you need a strategy. The ones giving up, probably didn't have one.
Your Strategy for The New Year: This is all very basic, and for a lot of you, this is not any news, you've already done the work. But you can attend to these exercises on your own level really. Or simply skip parts that you feel you have found an understanding in already (good for you!!). I have found that the journey is never ending, that you can adjust and re-shape yourself as a tool to the Divine all the time, to constantly strive to become a little more loving, a little more connected, a little more free, a little more aware.. But don't worry, I will post something way more advanced later!
Are you on board or not?
A new year is coming up. Are you taking on the challenge of renewing yourself? Of course you are! The best thing with a new year, is that it automaticaly is a chance to start all over again and renewing the things in your life that need your love and perhaps also a makeover. For that you need a Strategy. A strategy is your lifeline to save you from faliure, to keep you on track with your goals and most important of all; keep you motivated.
- Whatever your problem or challenge may be, laugh at it. Laugh long and hard. Because you are forever and it is temporary. - Mike Dooley
Step #1
Define the critical areas of your life that need your attention. It can be anything really. A health exam, your relationships, your working situation / career, school, family life, love life, identity, sexuality, spirituality, creativity, your social life or your home..
To find out your critical areas ask yourself these questions:
• What is troubling me? / What is holding me back?
• What or who sucks out my energy?
• What are the thing(s) I have been avoiding to tackle?
• What are the thing(s) that have been bothering me for years without a solution?
• What are the thing(s) that constantly calls for my attention?
• What are the ting(s) that is in the way for my progress?
Define the critical areas of your life that need your attention. It can be anything really. A health exam, your relationships, your working situation / career, school, family life, love life, identity, sexuality, spirituality, creativity, your social life or your home..
To find out your critical areas ask yourself these questions:
• What is troubling me? / What is holding me back?
• What or who sucks out my energy?
• What are the thing(s) I have been avoiding to tackle?
• What are the thing(s) that have been bothering me for years without a solution?
• What are the thing(s) that constantly calls for my attention?
• What are the ting(s) that is in the way for my progress?
Step #2
Make a plan. This is your map. Make a list of the critical areas you have, and break them down into the actual problem, what actions you need to take and when you should take action. Write it down in a notepad to keep you organized.
[Example of how it could look]
My critical areas:
- Me and my sister have had a grunge for years. I am no longer sticking my head in the sand.
- I'm drained and need to give my body loving attention.
- I'm such a victim, and blame everyone but myself.
- I don't feel I get the appreciation I need from my boss. If I think a bout it, I was never satisfied with the job in the first place.
- I want to break free and live a different life!
- Stop seeing my old friends that are negative and don't support my transformation ----> Finding new people to hang out with who are relaxed, positive and adventurous!
My Important Dates:
15th of January.......Write a letter to my sister to clear things up.
23d of January........Sign up for a yoga class
14th of February.....Start by seeking out every trigger point that makes me a victim.
27th of February.....Look for a new job.
27th of February.....Look for a new job.
2d of Mars...............I'm going to stop compromising my needs, say Yes and No.
10th of Mars............Attend to that party to find new friends.
Step #3
Evaluate! After you have taken action, how did it go? Did you succeed? If not, write down the same problem in your notepad again, but this time with a new action. You know... that if you try to solve a problem with the same tactic over and over again, not succeeding, it's because you need to change your tactic.
Step #4
One of the most important steps: Give yourself rewards when you succeed! People are driven by two basic emotions - either they are trying to avoid pain, or gain pleasure. You are wanting to change one or more critical areas of your life, and in this you are driven by BOTH of these two emotions; you want to end the problem (get rid of the pain) and gain pleasure from the changes you have made. So, how can you enhance the rewards when you succeed with solving a problem? Decide beforehand what rewards you are going to give yourself when you succeed to solve a problem
Troubles on the way?
Troubles on the way?
Not getting it done
What are your priorities? Even though you know exactly what to do, are you willing to set off time to do it? To avoid the trap of not-getting-it-done, book yourself in for a number of hours everyday, to do what you need to do. Set a timer, and during the time, give your 110% of effort.
Not motivated enough?
Not motivated enough?
Dig deeper in how this critical area is keeping you from feeling 150% happy, gorgeous, content, healthy, liberated, ecstatic.. Picture yourself 5-10 years from now, living with this problem. Can you really live with it? [Of course not!].
Fears?
Is it fears that is holding you back? Then try EFT (emotional freedom technique), a well worked out system to tap on your meridians and re-program your brain. [it REALLY works!]
Fears?
Is it fears that is holding you back? Then try EFT (emotional freedom technique), a well worked out system to tap on your meridians and re-program your brain. [it REALLY works!]
1) What Are Your Desires?
First of all, having desires is good! Some people associate desires with un-spiritual and a superficial materialistic behaviour, but that could not be more wrong. Did you know how many Rolls Royces the great Guru Osho had? Begrudging yourself things that you want, is not going to give you any spiritual points. Realize that you are worth the best of the best. This is actually the hardest step for people. ln the world we are living in today, we struggle so hard for our achievements. Telling people to start dreaming and visualizing can almost seem cynical. But having desires is the actual force behind every dream come true. The stronger the desire, the better!
Excercise: If you had all the money in the world, all the health, energy, courage, all the social back up - what would you do? If you didn't need to care for anyone else but you and all doors were open, what decisions would you make to enroll the beauty from within, the gifts from God, your talents?
2) Knowing What You Want
The second step is also a tricky one. Knowing what you want, is undoubtedly the core of a dream, and this is the step worth putting some extra time on to constantly adjust and reshape your dreams. If you don't know what you want, you might need to go back to the dreams you had when you were younger.
Excercise: One of the best things I know that in a playful way gets you in contact with what you want, is to make a visionboard or dreamboard! It simply works like this: you take a big bunch of magazines, and cut out the images that represent the things you want the most. Then you glue them to a piece of cardboard and hang it on your wall were you can see it often. You can also print images from the Internet to find exactly what you are looking for. This might seem like a bit of a school project, though making a dream board is both fun, motivating, clarifying but most of all - it works! Images activates more emotion than simply writing down or speaking your desires aloud. Images also have a powerful effect of our subconscious mind, and can be used to reprogram your mind into a desired foccus.
Excercise: One of the best things I know that in a playful way gets you in contact with what you want, is to make a visionboard or dreamboard! It simply works like this: you take a big bunch of magazines, and cut out the images that represent the things you want the most. Then you glue them to a piece of cardboard and hang it on your wall were you can see it often. You can also print images from the Internet to find exactly what you are looking for. This might seem like a bit of a school project, though making a dream board is both fun, motivating, clarifying but most of all - it works! Images activates more emotion than simply writing down or speaking your desires aloud. Images also have a powerful effect of our subconscious mind, and can be used to reprogram your mind into a desired foccus.
• Only pick images that feel right. Use your intuition.
• Also cut out or write words that suit you.
• Don't use negatives for example "no dept" or "I want to quit smoking". Instead write "I am economically wealthy"", or "I am greateful for feeling healthier and healthier every day!"
• Always make the dream bord when you are in your best mood possible.
• Concentrate on the big areas of your life: love, relationships, health, wealth, career, spirituality / personal development. You can also make a dream board only concentrated to a specific dream that you have.
• Go crazy and add anything you fancy; glitter, lace, fabrics, feathers, ribbons, stones, photos.. The more you are into it, the better!
• Don't be afraid that it is not "perfect". The more dream boards you will make, the clearer your desires will be!
• Photos of yourself with your name need to be on the board. In that way you will enhance your wishes even further.
A few notes on affirmations: You might want to put your favourite affirmations on the board. When it comes to the Law of Attraction there is one rule, always think, act, write and talk as if you already have what you desire. The Universe is like a huge copy machine, and if you are sending out feelings, thoughts ect of loss... then that's what you will receive. Don't say "please give me more money", because the energy that you have when saying those words, are of alack mentality. Instead, say "thank you for the abundance of money I am receiving now!". Expressing grattitude is powerful, because it has the energy of that you already succeeded with what you wanted. To get more inspired, visit qualified-lifecoach.com
• Also cut out or write words that suit you.
• Don't use negatives for example "no dept" or "I want to quit smoking". Instead write "I am economically wealthy"", or "I am greateful for feeling healthier and healthier every day!"
• Always make the dream bord when you are in your best mood possible.
• Concentrate on the big areas of your life: love, relationships, health, wealth, career, spirituality / personal development. You can also make a dream board only concentrated to a specific dream that you have.
• Go crazy and add anything you fancy; glitter, lace, fabrics, feathers, ribbons, stones, photos.. The more you are into it, the better!
• Don't be afraid that it is not "perfect". The more dream boards you will make, the clearer your desires will be!
• Photos of yourself with your name need to be on the board. In that way you will enhance your wishes even further.
A few notes on affirmations: You might want to put your favourite affirmations on the board. When it comes to the Law of Attraction there is one rule, always think, act, write and talk as if you already have what you desire. The Universe is like a huge copy machine, and if you are sending out feelings, thoughts ect of loss... then that's what you will receive. Don't say "please give me more money", because the energy that you have when saying those words, are of alack mentality. Instead, say "thank you for the abundance of money I am receiving now!". Expressing grattitude is powerful, because it has the energy of that you already succeeded with what you wanted. To get more inspired, visit qualified-lifecoach.com
3) Take Action!
• What decisions can you do economically?
• In your relationships?
• In your daily routines?
• For your career?
• Love life?
• Spirituality and health?
These decisions should be made with your head held high, for the respect for you and your goals, but also serve as a practical reminder of what to focus on.
Help..
Empty Your Cup
The Japanese master Nan-in gave audience to a professor of philosophy. Serving tea, Nan-in filled his visitor's cup, and kept pouring. The professor watched the overflow until he could restrain himself no longer: "Stop! The cup is over full, no more will go in." Nan-in said:"Like this cup, you are full of your own opinions and speculations. How can I show you Zen unless you first empty your cup."
To grow old or new dreams, you have to create space. Do this by getting rid of the old stuff in your life, that holds you in the past (unless it's not something that really adds to your process of making a dream come true). It can be clothes, letters, furnatures, contacts in your cellphone, old music, random stuff and even people. Especially go through your photo albums, computer, wardrobe, the attic and cellar. Find out more about space clearing via spaceclearing.com, I also recommend Karen Kingstons books!
Finding your Higher Self
Everybody has a Higher Self. This is the wisest, purest, most loving essense of you that has all the answers, always acts in love - your inner God / Goddess. He/She is always connected to you and knows you intimetly.
Meditation excercise: Take 10 deep breaths to connect with your body. Imagine that you walk down a staircase with seven steps. For every step you take, you become more relaxed, and more in contact with your subconscious. At the end of the staircase there's a door. Behind it is a room in which you will meet your Higher Self. Open the door and enter the room. What does it look like? Somewhere in the room there are two seats for you and your Higher Self. Go there to find Her / Him and open up to recieve the messages from Her/Him. You can ask questions, ask for healing, have a good cry, tell something, ask for advice or just be together in silence.
I don't have any dreams!
Dreams are about the desire to experience something. For example someone wants to experience Paris, experience what it feels like being 100% confident, or having a family, experiencing true love, experiencing what it feels like looking like a bombshell, own a horse or a killer car, their own house, having the courage to perform on stage, having a certain profession, master something, experiencing true love or an adventure! Surely you can come up with something to wish for? Something that would make you happier, more fulfilled, more eager, more glowing. Do you have any role models in your life? People that fascinate you? Then, there is something that they stand for or symbolize that you could create for yourself too!
